Impatience is an argument with reality.
Impatience has a way of creeping in quietly… and then suddenly yelling,
“WHY ISN’T THIS HAPPENING YET?!”
Whether you’re waiting for a text, a breakthrough, a decision, or your next big chapter to finally begin, impatience often masks something deeper:
👉 A resistance to the way things are.
👉 A desire to fast-forward the discomfort.
👉 A nervous system that’s tired of not knowing what comes next.
But here’s the truth:
Fighting reality doesn’t move things forward.
It just drains your energy and clouds your clarity.
So, what do you do when impatience strikes and your inner control freak is spiraling on a caffeine buzz?
Let’s walk through it together.
Step One: Notice What’s Coming Up for You
Before you try to fix anything, pause.
Get curious.
Ask yourself:
What does this situation represent to me/why am i placing so much importance upon it?
What am I afraid will happen if this doesn’t work out?
Where do I feel this tension in my body?
Impatience often shows up as a way to avoid discomfort, fear, or the feeling of powerlessness. Naming it softens its grip.
Step Two: Ask — What’s In My Control Right Now?
Here’s the magic question.
Impatience thrives on the illusion that everything is yours to manage. Spoiler: it’s not.
If there are things you can influence:
Lean into those fully.
Do the work. Take the step. Speak the truth. Send the email. Make the move.
But — and this part is crucial — release your attachment to how others respond.
Do it because it aligns with your integrity, not because you’re trying to force an outcome.
If the situation is outside of your control:
Hello, surrender. Let’s make it less abstract.
Here Are 3 Grounding Tools to Move Through Impatience When You Can’t Control the Outcome:
1. Move That Energy, Baby
Impatience = stored energy with nowhere to go.
Try:
Breathwork.
A tech-free walk in nature.
A good ol’ ugly cry.
Whatever movement feels the most cathartic in that moment: whether that’s gentle yoga, dancing in the kitchen to your favorite 90’s banger with your dogs (who me? never) or a kick ass boxing class. There is no right or wrong here.
The point is, movement helps your body release the shitstorm of energy our unchecked mind can create.
2. Connect to Something Greater
If it’s part of your practice, Pray. Ask for guidance from something or someone wiser than your anxiety.
Even a simple mantra like “That which is meant for me, cannot pass me by” or “When the time comes the answers will be there” can calm the inner chaos.
3. Redirect With Intention
Shift your focus to something you can impact — your environment, your creativity, your self-care, your next small action step.
The goal isn’t to distract.
It’s to anchor in your power while the rest of the puzzle pieces fall into place.
Patience Doesn’t Mean Passivity — It Means Trust With Boundaries
It’s not about sitting on your hands and waiting.
It’s about knowing when to act, when to let go, and how to care for your nervous system in the in-between.
And if you’re finding it hard to stay grounded while life feels like a cosmic waiting room?
That’s what I’m here for.
Let’s work through the tension, untangle what’s underneath it, and move you forward — with clarity and grounded confidence.
