The Micro Is the Mirror: Why the “Small Stuff” Shapes Everything
You’ve probably heard the phrase:
“How you do one thing is how you do everything.”
But let’s take it deeper:
✨ Every choice carries a frequency.
✨ Every action holds a vibration.
✨ And the micro? It’s always the mirror.
Think about it — the rushed morning routine, the frantic multitasking, the automatic yes when your soul meant no…
They may seem small.
But the energy behind them?
It echoes.
The Energy You Bring Is the Life You Build
When we’re constantly rushing, people-pleasing, or half-showing up in the little things, that becomes the baseline vibration of our entire life.
It leaks into our relationships.
Our work.
Our sense of self.
Even our nervous system begins to expect urgency as the norm — not peace.
And the thing is, it’s never just about the dishes, the text you forgot to send, or the way you brushed past your own boundaries “just this once.”
The micro never stays in its lane.
It bleeds into everything.
The Shift: Living With Intention in the Small Moments
Want to change your life?
Don’t wait for the big break, the perfect timing, or the next New Moon ritual.
Start here:
Take one deep breath before you open your phone.
Say “no” when you mean no, even if it’s to a tiny request.
Pour your coffee like it’s a love language.
Make your bed with the energy you want to bring to your business.
Close your laptop when you said you would, not an hour later.
These aren’t just tasks. They’re energetic declarations.
Every Tiny Choice Is an Invitation
You’re always co-creating your life — even (especially) in the moments that feel mundane.
So ask yourself:
Am I approaching this task with care and intention?
Is this decision rooted in alignment or auto-pilot?
Does the energy I’m showing up with, reflect the life I want to live?
The macro changes we crave — the healthier relationship, the thriving business, the more regulated nervous system — all begin in the micro.
Not with perfection. But with presence.
Ready to Rewire Your Energy From the Inside Out?
This is the kind of work we do together inside of my coaching container.
We don’t just shift habits. We shift frequencies.
We anchor into the kind of presence that magnetizes clarity, confidence, and true alignment — from the morning routine to the big leap you’ve been holding back on.
✨ Ready to bring more intention to your every day?
Apply here for 1:1 coaching … let’s start tuning your life to the vibration it was meant to hold.
Impatience is an argument with reality.
Impatience has a way of creeping in quietly… and then suddenly yelling,
“WHY ISN’T THIS HAPPENING YET?!”
Whether you’re waiting for a text, a breakthrough, a decision, or your next big chapter to finally begin, impatience often masks something deeper:
👉 A resistance to the way things are.
👉 A desire to fast-forward the discomfort.
👉 A nervous system that’s tired of not knowing what comes next.
But here’s the truth:
Fighting reality doesn’t move things forward.
It just drains your energy and clouds your clarity.
So, what do you do when impatience strikes and your inner control freak is spiraling on a caffeine buzz?
Let’s walk through it together.
Step One: Notice What’s Coming Up for You
Before you try to fix anything, pause.
Get curious.
Ask yourself:
What does this situation represent to me/why am i placing so much importance upon it?
What am I afraid will happen if this doesn’t work out?
Where do I feel this tension in my body?
Impatience often shows up as a way to avoid discomfort, fear, or the feeling of powerlessness. Naming it softens its grip.
Step Two: Ask — What’s In My Control Right Now?
Here’s the magic question.
Impatience thrives on the illusion that everything is yours to manage. Spoiler: it’s not.
If there are things you can influence:
Lean into those fully.
Do the work. Take the step. Speak the truth. Send the email. Make the move.
But — and this part is crucial — release your attachment to how others respond.
Do it because it aligns with your integrity, not because you’re trying to force an outcome.
If the situation is outside of your control:
Hello, surrender. Let’s make it less abstract.
Here Are 3 Grounding Tools to Move Through Impatience When You Can’t Control the Outcome:
1. Move That Energy, Baby
Impatience = stored energy with nowhere to go.
Try:
Breathwork.
A tech-free walk in nature.
A good ol’ ugly cry.
Whatever movement feels the most cathartic in that moment: whether that’s gentle yoga, dancing in the kitchen to your favorite 90’s banger with your dogs (who me? never) or a kick ass boxing class. There is no right or wrong here.
The point is, movement helps your body release the shitstorm of energy our unchecked mind can create.
2. Connect to Something Greater
If it’s part of your practice, Pray. Ask for guidance from something or someone wiser than your anxiety.
Even a simple mantra like “That which is meant for me, cannot pass me by” or “When the time comes the answers will be there” can calm the inner chaos.
3. Redirect With Intention
Shift your focus to something you can impact — your environment, your creativity, your self-care, your next small action step.
The goal isn’t to distract.
It’s to anchor in your power while the rest of the puzzle pieces fall into place.
Patience Doesn’t Mean Passivity — It Means Trust With Boundaries
It’s not about sitting on your hands and waiting.
It’s about knowing when to act, when to let go, and how to care for your nervous system in the in-between.
And if you’re finding it hard to stay grounded while life feels like a cosmic waiting room?
That’s what I’m here for.
Let’s work through the tension, untangle what’s underneath it, and move you forward — with clarity and grounded confidence.
Black Sheep Energy
They called me difficult.
Rebellious.
Too sensitive.
Too opinionated.
Too much.
Maybe you’ve been called the same. Maybe you were the one in your family who dared to question the unspoken rules. The one who refused to nod in agreement just to keep the peace. The one who couldn’t stay quiet when you saw something unjust.
For years, I internalized those labels. I felt shame. Confusion. A deep exhaustion from constantly walking the tightrope between being true to myself and making others comfortable.
But with age, wisdom, and a sht ton* of inner work I finally began to see the truth:
I wasn’t too much.
I was the one willing to speak up.
The one brave enough to challenge the status quo.
The one born to break the mold — and rebuild something better.
The Pain and Power of Being a Mold-Breaker
Let’s be real: having “black sheep energy” isn’t all poetic rebellion and leather jackets. It’s often isolating. Confusing. Painful.
It means walking paths no one’s paved for you.
It means carrying projections from people who are too afraid to meet their own edges.
It means being called “difficult” when really — you’re just discerning.
But it also means this:
You carry the fire that ignites change.
Galileo. Joan of Arc. Rosa Parks. David Bowie, hell, even Jesus! (pun 100% intended) Every single one of them shook the foundations of what was previously known and accepted. They were all dismissed, misunderstood, or ridiculed by the masses — until they weren’t.
The Role of Coaching in Refining the Fire
Here’s the thing — just because you have that fire doesn’t mean you always know how to wield it.
Without support, that energy can burn you out or become tangled in trauma.
Unhealed wounds can make your boldness reactive instead of rooted. Unprocessed grief can cause you to doubt your gifts or isolate when what you really need is aligned connection.
That’s where coaching comes in.
Working with a coach who gets it — who sees your power without flinching, and holds space for the tender, tired parts of you too — is transformative.
It’s how the black sheep becomes the shepherd.
Through our work together, we:
Heal the wounds caused by being misunderstood
Reclaim the parts of you that have been exiled or silenced
Clarify your vision so your rebellion becomes a revolution — with direction
Alchemize the pain of being “too much” into the power of being exactly right
Your Voice Matters. Your Leadership Is Needed.
You weren’t born to blend in.
You weren’t made to be quiet.
You weren’t sent here to dim your light to comfort those still sitting in the dark.
You were born to lead — in your own way, in your own rhythm, from your own sacred truth.
Let’s walk this path together. Let’s refine your fire. Let’s turn your resistance into resonance.
Because the world doesn’t need more people who fit in, it needs more people brave enough to be themselves.
Ready to alchemize your inner rebel? Apply for 1:1 Coaching Here
Impossibility isn’t a fact, it’s a feeling.
Have you ever stared down a goal, a dream, or a much-needed change and thought:
“There’s just no way.”
“I’m not ____ enough.”
"I don’t have enough _____ to make it happen.”
You’re not alone.
Maybe it was launching your business.
Maybe it was leaving a relationship that no longer aligned with your growth.
Maybe it was finding the courage to rest.
Or speak your truth.
Or believe in yourself after a chapter that left you questioning everything.
These words hit differently when you’ve lived through something that once felt impossible — and then one day, you looked back and realized… you did it.
The thing is, impossibility isn’t a fact.
It’s a feeling.
It’s the nervous system responding to risk.
It’s your inner critic reminding you of past failures.
It’s the conditioned part of you that believes safety lives only in what’s known.
But just because something feels impossible doesn’t mean it is.
If you’re standing at the edge of change — overwhelmed, uncertain, or tired of waiting for clarity — take this as your sign that you don’t have to have it all figured out to begin.
Start with one brave step.
Then another.
And another.
Before long, you'll look back and realize… you didn’t just do the impossible.
You became someone new in the process.
This is the work we do together inside my coaching container…
Whether you’re rewriting the rules in your business, reclaiming your voice in your relationships, or reconnecting with your purpose — I hold space for your evolution.
Not just to cross the finish line…
But to reclaim yourself as you do.
Because you were never meant to shrink to fit the impossible.
You were meant to expand into what's possible.
Your empowered path is waiting. Let’s walk it together.
Beyond the Hustle: The Question That Changes Everything When You’re Building Your Business
If you're in the thick of building or leveling up your business, chances are you've asked yourself the same question on repeat:
"How can I grow?"
It’s a fair question. A necessary one, even.
But in our hyper-productive, hustle-heavy culture, this question can become a trap—fueling urgency, comparison, and burnout.
So today, I want to offer you a more nourishing companion to that question. One that invites sustainability, creativity, and you back into the equation.
Instead of only asking “How can I grow?”
Try asking, “What would make this feel good to come back to tomorrow?”
That’s where the magic is.
That’s where longevity lives.
That’s where your business becomes more than a to-do list—and instead, a sacred space for your soul’s work to unfold.
Why This Shift Matters
When we focus only on growth, we can unknowingly bypass the very things that make growth possible: rest, alignment, clarity, and joy.
We forget that the most magnetic businesses aren’t built from constant output. They’re built from resonance. From truth. From wanting to return to your desk, your clients, your message—not needing to.
By asking what would make your process enjoyable, you bring self-trust into the room. You allow your body to speak. You make space for your intuition to guide, rather than just your to-do list.
This question is an invitation to co-create with your business, not just push it forward.
Try This: A Gentle Reframe for Your Daily Check-In
Here’s how you can start practicing this in real-time:
✅ What project feels most alive for me today?
✅ How can I bring a sense of beauty, ease, or play into this task?
✅ What’s one small shift I can make to feel excited about returning tomorrow?
This might look like lighting a candle before writing content, scheduling more aligned client calls, saying no to something that drains you, or simply taking a walk before diving in.
It’s not about doing less—it’s about doing what feels more like you.
Sustainable Business Is Soul-Aligned Business
Your work deserves to feel good—not all the time, but enough of the time that you want to keep showing up.
Because momentum built from nourishment goes farther than momentum built from burnout.
So the next time you’re mapping out your week or revisiting your goals, try this sacred reframe:
“What would make this feel good to come back to tomorrow?”
And let that be your compass.
Ready to build your business from a place of alignment, clarity, and intuitive momentum?
This is the work I love helping my clients embody….Let’s build something worth coming back to.
Apply for coaching here.
All my best,
Cristan
Clarity Doesn’t Come Before the Leap—It Comes After.
We’ve all said it at some point:
“I’m just waiting for clarity.”
It sounds wise. Responsible. Like we’re gathering the data, trusting the process, making sure we don’t move too fast.
But here’s the real truth—
Most of the time, we’re not waiting for clarity…
We’re avoiding change.
What Really Keeps Us Stuck
It’s not confusion that holds us back.
It’s the fear of letting go of what’s familiar, what feels safe, or what others have come to expect of us.
We say we want clarity, but what we’re really craving is certainty.
And clarity and certainty are not the same thing.
Clarity often arrives mid-leap—in the messy middle, the breathless moment after the letting go and before the landing. It’s in the doing, the trusting, the becoming that we start to understand what’s real and aligned.
Waiting too long for a picture-perfect answer can become its own kind of paralysis.
Letting Go of the Outdated Version of You
So here’s your invitation:
What if you stopped waiting to “feel ready”?
What if you gave yourself permission to release the version of you that’s no longer aligned?
The one who stayed quiet to keep the peace.
The one who settled because it was comfortable.
The one who kept choosing what’s known over what’s possible.
Because the truth is, that version of you was never meant to come with you into your next chapter.
And the longer you hold on, the heavier it gets.
Making Space to Rise
When you finally release what’s no longer aligned, you don’t just make room for clarity—
You make room for transformation.
For the version of you who’s not waiting anymore.
Who’s ready to rise, even without a detailed map.
That leap?
It doesn’t have to be reckless.
It just has to be honest.
You know when it’s time.
And if your soul is whispering now…
Trust it.
Reflection Prompt:
Where in my life am I waiting for clarity, when what I really need is the courage to move?
What part of me is ready to be released?
And what might be possible if I let that version go—just a little bit—today?
All my best,
Cristan
Equine-Assisted Coaching- A Pathway to Deeper Clarity, Connection, and Growth.
Not all breakthroughs happen in a chair across from a coach or therapist.
Some of the most profound insights of my life have come in a quiet pasture, standing beside a 1,200-pound being who’s reflections came not from my words or actions—but to my energy most of all.
Welcome to equine-assisted coaching—a powerful and experiential approach to personal growth that invites you to connect with yourself through the honest, intuitive feedback of horses.
Why Horses?
Horses are prey animals, which means they are biologically wired to be highly attuned to their surroundings. They sense energetic shifts, emotional incongruence, and subtle body language with remarkable clarity.
They don’t care about your job title, your follower count, or how well you’ve rehearsed your story.
They care about congruence. Presence. Truth.And that’s what makes them such powerful co-facilitators.
When you step into the arena with a horse, you enter a space where masks come off and deeper awareness rises up—often without saying a word.
This Is Not Horse Therapy
Let’s clarify something: Equine-assisted coaching is not therapy.
It’s not about processing trauma from the past (though healing can happen).
It’s not about diagnosing or fixing.
It’s about noticing, feeling, and shifting—in real time.In a session, you might work with a horse on the ground, guiding them through simple exercises or simply observing their behavior in response to your energy and emotional state. As your coach, I guide the reflection and help you draw meaningful connections between what’s happening with the horse and what’s happening in your life.
The Magic in the Metaphor
The horse becomes a mirror.
Their behavior often reflects your internal experience in a way that feels both undeniable and deeply affirming.
A horse hesitating to follow might mirror your own fear of leading.
A horse crowding your space might reveal blurred boundaries in your personal life.
A horse calming in your presence might reflect your newfound grounding and self-trust.
These metaphors aren’t just insightful—they’re felt.
They live in the body.
And that’s where real transformation begins.
Who Is This For?
Equine-assisted coaching is for you if:
You feel stuck in your head and crave a more embodied way to gain clarity
You're working on confidence, boundaries, leadership, or emotional regulation
You’re seeking healing and growth but talk therapy doesn’t fully resonate
You’re curious about reconnecting with your intuition in a profound way
You simply love being in the presence of animals and nature
No horse experience is necessary. You won’t be riding. You’ll be relating.
Let’s Step Into the Arena
If you’ve been craving a different kind of coaching experience—one that grounds you in your truth, expands your self-awareness, and invites you to learn through doing, sensing, and being—equine-assisted coaching might be the exact medicine you didn’t know you needed.
You already hold the answers.
The horse just helps you hear them more clearly.
Want to Learn More?
Curious about whether equine-assisted coaching is right for you? Fill out the 1:1 Application on the homepage and i’ll be in touch!
All my best,
Cristan
There are no perfect conditions for growth.
“If seeds waited for perfect conditions to grow, there would be no plants in the desert.”
— Matshona Dhliwayo
Nature has always been our greatest teacher—and nowhere is her wisdom more evident than in the desert.
In a place that seems barren, inhospitable, and unforgiving, life still finds a way.
The roots dig deeper.
The plants adapt.
The growth happens anyway.
Growth Isn’t Always Glamorous
We’re often sold the myth that growth only happens in well-lit, Pinterest-perfect conditions—after the vision board is made, the schedule clears up, the energy aligns, and all doubts disappear.
But the truth is much more raw… and much more liberating:
Growth doesn’t require perfection. It requires presence.
It asks for courage.
For adaptability.
For a willingness to trust your inner reserves, even when the external landscape looks uncertain.
The Wisdom of Harsh Seasons
The plants and animals of the desert survive because they’ve learned a hard truth:
It’s in the toughest conditions that we discover what truly nourishes and sustains us.
The same is true for you.
Those moments of confusion, of stillness, of feeling like nothing’s moving on the surface?
That’s root work.
That’s soul work.
That’s you becoming the kind of resilient that can’t be taken away.
Even in seasons where the future feels hazy and your confidence feels shaky—you are still evolving.
You are still expanding.
You are still enough.
The Well Within
Just like the desert hides deep wells beneath its cracked surface, you too hold a hidden source within you—a wellspring of wisdom, resilience, creativity, and quiet power.
You don’t need everything to be figured out before you take the next step.
You just need to trust that what you need will rise up to meet you, moment by moment.
And if your soul has been whispering that it’s time to rise—despite the fear, despite the messiness—
consider this your sign.
You were made for this.
Not because it’s easy, but because you are ready.
Journaling Prompt:
What part of me is quietly growing, even if I can’t yet see the results?
Where have I been waiting for “perfect conditions” to begin—and what would it look like to begin anyway?
All my best,
Cristan
What if your inner dialogue isn't the truth?
Let that sink in for a moment.
You weren’t born questioning your worth.
You didn’t come into the world second-guessing your voice or dimming your light to make others more comfortable.
That came later.
It was modeled by people who were also hurting.
Conditioned through systems that thrive on self-doubt.
Inherited from generations who didn’t have the tools to heal, so they passed the fear down instead.
But here’s the thing:
Just because something was passed down…
doesn’t mean you have to keep carrying it.
The Voice of Survival, Not Truth
That inner critic, that perfectionist, that part of you that’s constantly scanning for what’s wrong—it’s not the villain. It’s a part of you that learned to stay safe by staying small. That tried to protect you by being hyper-vigilant or overly self-correcting.
It’s not trying to hurt you—it’s trying to protect you in the only way it knows how.
But protection isn't the same as truth.
And fear isn’t the same as wisdom.
You get to evolve the script now.
Rewriting the Story
What if, instead of believing every thought you think, you got curious?
What if you questioned the origin of that voice?
Whose voice is this, really?
Is this my truth—or someone else’s projection?
What do I know to be true about myself, beyond the fear?
The moment you start asking those questions, you open a door.
And through that door is a life built on your actual truth—not the one fear wrote for you.
You Deserve a Kinder Voice
You deserve to live with a mind that’s not constantly attacking you.
You deserve a voice that affirms your worth, your softness, your power.
You deserve a story that’s rooted in self-trust—not survival mode.
Journaling Prompt:
What’s one belief I carry about myself that I know didn’t originate from me?
What truth might be waiting underneath it, if I chose to release that old story?
If you’re ready to explore what that new story could look like—I’m here to hold space for that unfolding.
Because the voice in your head?
It can change.
And so can your life. 🖤
All my best,
Cristan
The bigger the low, the bigger the opportunity to rise.
It’s easy to feel lost, stuck, or defeated when you’re in a low moment.
Whether it’s a heartbreak, a setback, a season of burnout or uncertainty—it can feel like everything is unraveling. And maybe, in a way, it is.
But here’s what I want you to remember:
Every low point holds the wisdom, strength, and clarity needed to evolve into your next chapter.
Not in spite of the pain—but because of it.
The Hidden Intelligence of Hard Seasons
Life’s most difficult moments are not detours from your path. They are the path. They strip away what’s no longer aligned. They confront the parts of you that are ready to be redefined. They reveal truths you might have otherwise ignored.
It’s in the low points where we:
Get radically honest with ourselves.
Discover what truly matters.
Find out what we’re really made of.
These are not signs of failure.
They are initiations.
They are invitations.
The Wisdom in the Wreckage
If you’re in a low right now—pause and breathe.
You don’t need to fix it all today.
But you can begin to ask:
What is this season teaching me?
What part of me is being asked to soften… or to rise?
What truth is becoming clearer through this discomfort?
You are not broken.
You are breaking open.
And on the other side of that opening?
A stronger, wiser, more aligned version of you is emerging.
You’re Being Shaped—Not Stopped
It might not look or feel like it right now, but this season is shaping you.
It’s building your capacity.
It’s deepening your roots.
It’s clarifying your vision.
The rise always comes.
And when it does, you’ll look back on this time not with resentment, but with reverence—for what it taught you, and for who you became because of it.
Journaling Prompt:
What low point in my past shaped me in a meaningful way?
What strengths or insights did I gain that I didn’t have before?
If I trusted that this current low is shaping my rise… how might I move through it differently?
All my best,
Cristan
“The Wolf & The Doe.”
As I enter my 37th year upon this earth, I am honoring my journey thus far by sharing what may be the most personal piece of content I have ever shared... a poem I channeled in meditation a short while ago. From my warrior heart to yours. xo Cristan
"The Wolf & The Doe"
Her smile is elusive,
but when it appears,
it can light up the darkest sky
and warm the coldest heart.
Her spirit is wise,
and her countenance, courage.
She reveals herself in bits—
tiny gems that embed themselves deep in your soul...
shining flecks of God
that glitter long after she's departed.
To earn her trust is no small feat.
But to those who do,
the gifts of the divine flow freely.
Her intuition is unwavering...
eyes that see through many layers
to the depths below.
She moves with grace and efficiency,
suffering no fools
and wasting no time.
When she has been crossed,
Hackles rise.
An ancient song rumbles from her depths.
Laser-focused,
tongue sharpens,
and claws emerge.
All at once,
the gentle doe transforms
into a wolf.
In the beginning,
the wolf would devour all in its path...
even the doe within.
Her fury-storm
leaving a trail
of internal and outer destruction
in its wake.
Until one day,
the still, small voice
from within her heart
became loud enough to permeate the din.
It said:
Please slow down.
Please tune in.
Please stop burying me
beneath so many layers of armor.
I’m tired of fighting.
I’m tired of running.
I’m tired of striving.
A sacred pause.
A whisper echoed through lifetimes,
woven in a thousand tongues,
heard not only by ears, but by bone and blood.
A fated meeting.
A broken mirror.
A long dark night.
I resisted,
it persisted.
I avoided,
only to collide once more—
until the armor was no more,
chipped away bit by painful bit.
There was nowhere to go, no one to be-
nothing to prove, not even to me.
Acceptance arrived, not as defeat,
but as the doorway to my own becoming.
Now another wolf emerges.
A new day has dawned,
and along with it,
a new war cry—rooted in love,
yet fierce beyond measure.
The beta encircles the gentle doe,
baring her teeth to the outside threat,
but wasting no more energy
than what is necessary...
knowing that her life force
is a precious gift.
She guides the doe to the safety of her den—
back home to herself,
where an unending well of nourishment flows freely.
until the time comes,
to expand once more
into the great unknown.
Wolf and doe lie down beside one another—
soft gaze,
knowing glance...
they merge again
as one.
Reclaiming Your Power: A Guide to Healing and Rising
There comes a moment in every journey where you stand at the crossroads of who you’ve been and who you’re becoming. A threshold moment. A reckoning. A rising.
And in that moment, you’re faced with a choice:
Will you keep defining yourself by the pain, the past, the projections of others—
or will you remember who you truly are?
Because here’s the truth:
At some point, you must acknowledge how smart you are.
How beautiful you are.
How strong, how capable, how perfectly and divinely imperfect you are.
Not because someone else finally gave you permission.
But because your soul is done waiting for proof.
Releasing What Was Never Yours to Hold
Yes, people may have hurt you.
They may have underestimated you, silenced you, left you questioning your worth.
But their actions—or lack thereof—do not define your capacity to heal or rise.
There is no rewriting the past.
But there is reclaiming the power it tried to take from you.
That starts with letting go—not to excuse what happened, but to liberate yourself from carrying what was never meant to be yours.
Let go of what they couldn’t give you.
Let go of the story that says you are too much, or not enough.
Let go of the weight of proving.
Reclaiming What’s Always Been Yours
You were never meant to stay small.
You were never meant to apologize for your brilliance, your truth, your light.
There is a version of you—wise, whole, wildly aligned—waiting patiently for your return.
And the moment you begin to honor your worth from the inside out, you meet her.
You rise.
You take your power back.
And you begin to ascend to the heights that were always yours to claim.
Not because someone handed it to you.
But because you remembered: it was never outside of you to begin with.
Reflection Prompt:
What am I still holding onto that was never mine to carry?
What truth about myself have I been afraid to fully own?
What part of me is ready to rise now, if I let it?
All my best,
Cristan
Inspiration Isn’t a Destination—It’s a Perspective.
We often think of inspiration as something we need to chase.
A lightning bolt.
A perfectly timed idea.
A place we arrive at when the stars align and the to-do list is finally clear.
But here’s the truth:
Inspiration isn’t a destination—it’s a perspective.
It’s not out there, waiting for us to catch up.
It’s here, now—waiting for us to slow down, to listen, to notice.
The Myth of the “Big Moment”
We’ve been sold the idea that inspiration has to be loud, dramatic, or revolutionary. That we’ll find it when we’re finally on the retreat, or on vacation, or after life calms down.
But real inspiration?
It’s much quieter than that.
It whispers in the pause between breaths.
It hums through the discomfort of growth.
It flickers gently in the mundane, the messy, the everyday.
Learning to See Differently
When we stop rushing and start tuning in, the world shifts.
We begin to notice the sacredness in simple things:
A sentence that stirs something inside you.
The resilience of a weed pushing through a sidewalk crack.
A conversation that leaves you breathless, not because it was perfect—but because it was real.
Inspiration lives in the stillness.
In the struggle.
In the sacred in-between.
It doesn’t demand anything from you—just your presence.
Reclaiming Your Inner Spark
So if you’ve been feeling disconnected, uninspired, or overwhelmed by the noise of “doing more,” this is your reminder:
You don’t have to go looking for inspiration.
You just have to remember how to see.
Get quiet.
Get curious.
And let yourself be moved by what’s already here.
An Invitation
If you’re ready to clear the mental clutter and reconnect with the well of inspiration within you—and all around you—I’m here for that journey.
✨ Let’s rediscover the magic in your everyday.
Journaling Prompts:
Where have I been looking for inspiration outside of myself?
What would it feel like to believe that inspiration is already available to me, right here, right now?
All my best,
Cristan
When we avoid conflict externally, we create conflict internally.
For so many of us—especially those who’ve been conditioned to be “easygoing,” “nice,” or the “peacemaker”—conflict can feel like a threat. Something to be dodged. Something to tiptoe around at all costs.
But here’s the truth:
When we avoid external conflict, we don’t eliminate conflict—we just relocate it.
Instead of letting that tension be expressed or released, we internalize it.
We swallow our truth.
We quiet our needs.
We become fluent in self-abandonment, all in the name of keeping the peace.
And ironically?
We lose our own peace in the process.
The Cost of Keeping the Peace
When we silence ourselves to avoid ruffling feathers, we create an inner war zone. We may appear calm on the outside, but inside we’re carrying the weight of the unspoken, the unseen, and the unmet.
We begin to doubt our needs.
We rationalize our discomfort.
We question if what we feel is valid enough to be voiced.
But the tension doesn't go away—it just festers.
And eventually, it surfaces as burnout. Resentment. Disconnection. Or a version of ourselves that no longer feels recognizable.
Redefining Conflict
What if conflict isn’t inherently bad?
What if, instead of something to fear, conflict is actually a portal—a gateway to clarity, connection, and growth?
What if the discomfort of being honest…
is actually the beginning of deeper intimacy, real understanding, and self-respect?
Boundaries aren’t walls.
They’re bridges—to healthier relationships, with others and with ourselves.
And your truth? It’s not too much.
It’s necessary.
Harmony Begins Within
We often chase harmony with others, forgetting that true harmony begins inside. When we abandon ourselves to stay connected to someone else, that connection is no longer authentic—it’s built on compromise that costs too much.
But when we choose to stay rooted in what’s real and true for us, we begin to cultivate relationships where both people can be seen and heard.
That is real harmony. That is emotional integrity.
A Loving Reminder
You are allowed to take up space.
You are allowed to set boundaries.
You are allowed to say, “This doesn’t feel right for me.”
Because when you honor your truth, you reclaim your peace.
And that is a kind of conflict worth choosing.
✨
Reflections:
Where in my life have I been avoiding conflict at the expense of my own peace?
What truth within me has been waiting to be voiced?
How might honoring my discomfort lead to deeper alignment or connection?
All the best,
Cristan
Comparison Keeps You Small — Here’s Why.
We live in a world that makes it very easy to compare ourselves to others. From highlight reels on social media to the constant noise of “shoulds” and “success stories,” the temptation to measure our worth against someone else's timeline is real—and relentless.
But here’s the truth:
Comparison is a losing game.
It doesn’t uplift. It doesn’t expand.
It either shrinks us into inadequacy or inflates us with a false sense of superiority—neither of which serves our growth, our relationships, or our peace of mind.
The Hidden Cost of Comparison
When we compare ourselves to others, we lose sight of our own journey. We override our intuition. We diminish our progress. And we silence the quieter, more sustainable voice of our truth in favor of external benchmarks that were never meant for us in the first place.
We forget that someone else’s chapter 20 might be our chapter 3.
We forget that timelines are not templates.
We forget that we’re not here to replicate someone else’s life—we’re here to live ours.
A Shift in Perspective
So, the next time you feel the urge to compare—pause.
Take a breath.
And ask yourself:
Am I wiser than I was last year?
Kinder to myself?
More in tune with what I truly need?
That’s the stuff that matters.
Those are the markers of meaningful growth.
And those are the things that allow a deep, grounded contentment to rise up from within—without needing to prove anything to anyone.
A New Kind of Measuring Stick
You don’t need to outdo anyone else.
You don’t need to win the algorithm or keep up with the curated pace of someone else’s life.
The only person you’re truly in competition with…
is the version of you from yesterday.
Are you growing?
Are you healing?
Are you becoming more of you?
That’s where your power lies.
A Gentle Invitation
Today, instead of scrolling and comparing, take a moment to acknowledge your own journey—your resilience, your growth, your evolution.
Let that be enough.
Let you be enough.
Because you are. ✨
All my best,
Cristan
Authenticity Isn’t a Performance—And Vulnerability Isn’t a Content Strategy.
In a digital world that often rewards exposure over intention, it’s easy to get swept up in the pressure to “be vulnerable” online. Especially for coaches, healers, creatives, and anyone building a soul-led business, the line between sharing meaningfully and performing for engagement can get very blurry.
Let’s set the record straight:
Authenticity is not a performance.
Vulnerability is not a content strategy.
These are sacred expressions of our truth—not tools to be manipulated for reach, likes, or algorithmic validation.
The Truth About "Showing Up"
After a recent Instagram post, I found myself reflecting on what it really means to show up authentically. I shared that authenticity isn’t something we “do”—it’s something we allow. And when we allow our true selves to be seen, even in small ways, we create space for genuine connection.
But that doesn’t mean we need to pour our hearts out on the internet every time we log on. Vulnerability is powerful, yes—but it’s also deeply personal, and it deserves to be honored on your terms.
Trusting Your Unique Pace
There’s no gold star for emotional exposure. And if you’re forcing yourself to share something that your body, intuition, or nervous system isn’t ready for... that’s not authenticity. That’s self-betrayal in service to performance.
Instead, I believe in stretching the vulnerability muscle little by little, in ways that feel safe, intentional, and aligned. When you do that, something beautiful happens:
You begin to attract the right people—not because you bared your soul to gain attention, but because you showed up in a way that resonates energetically with those who are meant to connect with you.
This is what I call energetic resonance. ✨
It’s not about selling yourself. It’s about being yourself—and trusting that’s enough.
The Risk of Oversharing
On the flip side, when we overshare—or share prematurely from a place that still feels raw or unresolved—it can create energetic confusion. We may attract clients, collaborators, or followers who are not actually aligned with us... because they’re connecting with a version of us that was curated to meet the demands of an algorithm, not the truth of our essence.
And then we wonder why we feel drained. Disconnected. Off.
Finding Your Balance
So how do we find the balance between being open and being overexposed?
It starts with asking yourself:
Am I sharing this because it feels like truth, or because I think I should?
Does this feel generative and grounding—or activating and performative?
Am I doing this for connection... or for validation?
Remember: you don’t owe the internet your vulnerability.
But your aligned audience does deserve your presence.
Show up in a way that honors both.
Reflection Question:
Have you struggled to find a balance with showing up authentically vs. oversharing online? What has helped you feel grounded in your truth?
All my best,
Cristan
Why peace can feel so g*d damn elusive.
It all begins with an idea.
Lately I have been reflecting on peace, and all the ways I have sought it out over the years, with varying levels of success. From yoga, meditation, journaling, grounding mats, therapy- you name it, I’ve tried it. The truth is, you can do all of the things- but if you are still investing your energy into relationships/endeavors that are no longer aligned for you in this season of your life, that peace will remain elusive.
As i sit here in this moment, navigating the dissolution of a 7 year relationship as well as launching a new business- i am shocked to find i feel more at peace than i have in a long time. I have been reflecting on why this would be given the big changes I am presently navigating.
I am presently inclined to believe that unless we are ACTIVELY fulfilling our function/responding to our souls calling- that finding peace remains elusive… even if our life looks good on paper/we are not actively navigating a difficult life circumstance.
Fulfilling our function/living out our purpose, looks different for each of us- for some it might look like quitting a corporate job and becoming a stay at home mom, for others it could mean selling all of our possessions and moving across the country to follow a dream. There is no right or wrong here- and the more that we can cultivate an awareness of what expectations have been placed upon us by society/our family of origin vs. what are souls are calling us to move towards, the more alignment and peace we will uncover for ourselves.
In this season, when friends/family/society might expect me to be struggling with these big life changes- i have been able to find both peace and inspiration for the following reasons…
It was my choice to end the relationship, and I did so from a place of full acceptance of the other- and the deep awareness that my former partner and i had expanded as much as we could within the container of our relationship and that it was time to move on- in order to continue doing what we have all came here to do...to evolve.
I was able to release him with love, knowing there was someone better suited out there for him and for myself… and that my friend allowed me to feel a deep sense of peace and even dare I say, gratitude.
Finally answering the call to make a pivot from my 15+ year career in the salon industry into a career in mindset & small business coaching (which I had been feeling called to since 2021) has stretched me in many ways also brought me a profound sense of peaceful alignment.
Pulling back my energy from two major areas of my life which had been feeling stagnant (relationship & career) and reinvesting that energy into new endeavors has been absolutely life giving.
So today i ask you my friend, what areas of your life currently feel stagnant/draining? How can you begin to consciously pull back your energy from these areas? What endeavors would you like to channel your energy into instead?
If you need help navigating this energy audit, I would love to guide you through the process.
All my best,
Cristan
Choosing discomfort is a superpower.
It all begins with an idea.
We often seek comfort, avoiding the things that make us uneasy or uncertain. But what if leaning into discomfort is actually the key to becoming stronger, more grounded, and more adaptable in life?
Cold showers have taught me to breathe through physical discomfort. Meditation has helped me sit with emotional discomfort. Both have conditioned me to face life’s challenges with more calm, clarity, and resilience.
At first, standing under icy water feels like a shock to the system. Every instinct tells you to escape, to turn the knob to warm, to resist. But when you stay and breathe through it, you realize that the discomfort is temporary. It doesn’t control you—you can meet it with presence, with acceptance, and eventually, with ease.
Meditation mirrors this in the realm of emotions. When difficult feelings arise—anxiety, sadness, frustration—our mind often scrambles to make sense of them, to fix them, or to push them away. But when we simply observe without judgment, without creating a story around them, they begin to lose their grip. We become more spacious, more at peace with what is.
Resilience isn’t about never feeling discomfort. It’s about meeting it without resistance, about training ourselves to stay present through the challenges rather than shutting down or avoiding them. And the more we practice, the more capacity we build—to take on new challenges, to navigate uncertainty, and to expand into the fullest version of ourselves.
So, have you experimented with a resiliency practice? Whether it’s cold showers, breathwork, meditation, or stepping outside your comfort zone in small ways, I’d love to hear how you build your inner strength.
All my best,
Cristan
Stepping Into Expansion: Overcoming the Illusion of Readiness.
It all begins with an idea.
Every master, every success story, began from a place of uncertainty. No one starts fully prepared or completely confident. The truth is, waiting for the perfect moment or feeling perfectly qualified is often just a form of self-sabotage.
Growth and clarity don’t happen by standing still. They emerge when we take small, imperfect steps forward. It’s through action that we gain experience, refine our skills, and develop the confidence we once thought we needed before starting.
When we finally get out of our own way and move courageously toward our calling, we send a powerful signal to the universe: we are ready to expand. This willingness to take action opens doors, ignites inspiration, and builds momentum. Suddenly, opportunities that once seemed distant begin to appear, and the right people take notice, offering support in ways we never expected.
On the other hand, when we allow fear, overanalyzing, and procrastination to keep us stuck, we close ourselves off from possibility. The door to higher guidance and abundance remains shut—not because we lack ability, but because we haven’t yet signaled our readiness to receive more.
So, I ask you: What’s one step you can take today to show the universe you’re ready for expansion? It doesn’t have to be perfect. It just has to be forward.
You’re more ready than you think.
All my best,
Cristan
The mind is a wonderful servant but a terrible master.
It all begins with an idea.
To take our thoughts at face value often results in the creation of unnecessary chaos and friction in our lives. Just because a thought arises doesn’t mean it’s true, helpful, or aligned with who we want to become.
Our minds are constantly absorbing influences—from past experiences, societal conditioning, media, and the people around us. These inputs shape our internal dialogue, often without us even realizing it. The key to real transformation is not just changing our actions but becoming more aware of the thoughts which lead to those actions.
If we attempt to create change on solely on the level of action, without addressing our mindset- that change will rarely be sutainable.
When we begin to recognize and question the patterns in our thinking, we reclaim our power. We can actively choose which thoughts to nurture and which to let go, curating an inner ecosystem that supports our growth rather than limits it. And when we do this, sustainable change naturally follows—not just in our mindset, but in the actions we take and the life we create.
So, what influences are shaping your thoughts right now? Are they empowering you or keeping you stuck? The more we bring awareness to the origins of our mental landscape, the more intentional we become in designing a life that aligns with our true potential.
All my best,
Cristan