Safety Is Felt, Not Negotiated

There is a conversation happening beneath your thoughts at all times.

Before you gather evidence.
Before you build a case.
Before the story even makes logical sense.

Your body already knows.

We’ve been trained to override that knowing. To “be rational.” To give people the benefit of the doubt. To wait for proof. But your nervous system is not waiting for proof. It’s tracking safety, congruence, and alignment in real time.

And it is incredibly intelligent.

Horses understand this instinctively

They don’t respond to charm.
They don’t respond to words.
They don’t respond to potential.

They respond to congruence.

If your inner state doesn’t match what you’re presenting, they feel it immediately. You can smile and say all the “right” things, but if your energy is anxious, resentful, or disconnected, they mirror that back to you.

They don’t judge it. They simply reflect it.

And here’s the part most people miss:

Your body works the same way.

The Subtle Signals We Ignore

Your nervous system is constantly scanning for cues of safety or threat. Not just physical threat… emotional incongruence, subtle manipulation, unspoken tension, mixed signals.

When you’re around someone who drains, confuses, or dysregulates you, your body will often tell you long before your mind catches up.

• Your shoulders tighten.

• Your stomach flips.

• Your breath becomes shallow.

• You feel slightly braced, like you’re preparing for impact.

That is not drama.
That is discernment.

Ease, safety, and grounded presence are not things you convince yourself into. They are felt somatically before they are ever known intellectually.

If your body stays on high alert around someone, that is valuable information. Not something to override. Not something to explain away.

Why We Override Ourselves

We override because we want the story to work.

We override because the person/job/opportunity looks good on paper.

We override because we’re attached to potential.

We override because being right about someone can feel safer than being alone.

But ignoring your body has a cost. It shows up as emotional gymnastics, confusion, second-guessing, and exhaustion.

The truth is rarely loud. It’s usually quiet and physical.

A pause in your breath.
A subtle contraction.
A deep exhale when someone leaves the room.

That exhale? That’s data.

The Practice of Tuning In

The next time you notice your body tense, your stomach flip, or yourself holding your breath in someone’s presence, don’t immediately analyze it.

Pause.

Ask yourself:

What is my body trying to tell me right now?
Do I feel expanded or contracted?
Am I relaxed here, or am I performing?

You don’t have to make a dramatic decision in that moment. You just have to notice.

Awareness alone will save you time, energy, and heartache down the line.

Your nervous system is not out to sabotage you. It is trying to protect you and guide you toward alignment.

Embodying Congruence

Inside my coaching container, we practice embodying what horses model so effortlessly:

• Presence

• Congruence

• Self-trust

This is not about becoming hyper-vigilant. It’s about becoming attuned.

When your inner state and outer expression match, you move differently. You attract differently. You choose differently… and life gets a whole lot simpler.

If you’re ready to deepen your relationship with your body’s wisdom and build unshakable self-trust from the inside out, I would love to walk that path with you.

You already know more than you think… Your body has been telling you all along. ❤️‍🔥